Forget surgery. Kim Anami believes the most effective facelift is a well-timed climax. She will also tell you, without a hint of irony, that she has lifted coconuts with the strength of her vagina. She has viral videos and photos to prove it: gleaming tropical fruit dangling between her legs from a string attached to an inserted jade egg, the ocean shimmering in the background.
It may be a stunt, but Anami believes it’s also evidence that vitality, beauty, and longevity are powered not by serums or injectables, but by a strong crotch and good orgasms.
Specifically, “G-spot, squirting or female ejaculation, and cervical. These are essential, daily sexual medicine for all women,” Anami says. To her, they are “nature’s beauty treatment.”
Anami, a board-certified holistic sex and relationship coach, built her theories on the question: “Are you living a well-fucked life?” She blends Eastern tantra, Western encouragement, and unapologetic showmanship to promote what she calls “gourmet sex,” the kind that keeps you glowing long past the age most women start Googling “neck cream.”
The premise is both ancient and simple: orgasms (full-bodied, transcendent, connected ones) are anti-aging medicine. How does one access these so-called beautifying orgasms? According to Anami, it begins with cultivating connection on every level: emotional, physical, sexual, psychological, spiritual, and even energetic. The more fully you surrender to intimacy, the deeper the encounter becomes and the more “life force” you’re able to access.
In practice, that means slow, conscious breathing, restorative practices such as yoni and breast massage, and even something as practical as choosing a partner–or anatomy–that harmonizes with your body.
Now, why do orgasms give you that special glow? According to scientific research, they release oxytocin, as well as increase DHEA levels, lower stress, improve hormonal balance, and deepen relationships.
Anami calls her method “Vaginal Kung Fu,” which teaches women to use their pelvic floor to lift objects ranging from fruit to chandeliers. It’s not only about orgasms, she states. “The pelvic floor is supporting your entire lower body.” The idea is that when these muscles are weak, everything drags and sags. “Within the Taoist framework, which is where vaginal weightlifting originated, by strengthening the pelvic floor, you’re creating this energetic lift that even reflects in the face.”
It’s worth noting that not all gynecologists agree. “Vaginal weightlifting promises stronger pelvic floors, but my clinical data reveals the opposite,” says Dr. David Ghozland, a gynecologist in Orange County. “Following the observation of more than 400 women who tried this practice, 30 percent of them developed tissue damage after four weeks. The vaginal canal just cannot take a mechanical loading. It is one-tenth as strong as normal skin.” These micro-tears can cause chronic pain and sexual dysfunction, he explains. Most gynecologists believe Kegel exercises are a far better idea.
Anami’s followers subscribe to her method and have seen the results in action. Driven by heartbreak and two years of celibacy, Tia discovered Anami on Instagram, bingeing her podcasts, and ultimately enrolling in her seasonal salon despite never having pleasured herself before.
Tia committed to daily breast massage and Anami’s salon practices, including conscious self-pleasure, breathwork, nudity rituals, and “pussy whispering,” which is what it sounds like: talking to the vagina. As a result, she grew a cup size, unlocked new orgasmic experiences–including her first cervical orgasm–and began trusting her “pussy spark” to choose a partner.
“I have attracted so many men in my life,” Tia says. “They gravitated toward me and I did little to no effort. They would cross streets full with traffic just to be around my radiance.”
Anami is either a sage or a kook with a killer Kegel routine. But she’s adamant about one thing: orgasms and vaginal weightlifting don’t just feel good–they make you look good. Her bottom line is simple: pleasure is the most potent beauty treatment around.
Chelsea Frank is a Los Angeles–based writer of fiction, comedy, and travel journalism. She writes a food column for Forbes and contributes to InStyle, Popular Science, TripSavvy, and Uproxx
