When my friend Jonathan* decided to “get back out there” after a decades-long relationship, he was braced for the gentle hell of “the apps.” After all, the pitfalls of online dating are cultural canon at this point: ghosting, bots, rudeness, functional illiteracy, people into “clean eating” … and on and on.
Even so, Jonathan was unprepared when his first few dates avoided small talk in favor of extremely graphic bedroom talk. In fact, the women he went out with seemed actively annoyed that he wasn’t ready to get to the “What do you like in bed?” part before their coffees cooled.
